During one of many sleepovers I inquired that he didn’t have to answer if he doesn’t want to but he said that he was not seeing anyone and it did not seem that he was lying if he was seeing other people and said.

Am we truly the only one scanning this while the OP telling the guy if he doesn’t want to that he doesn’t have to answer? You don’t need to respond to? That she asked the concern and straight away stated, “but”

OP, if i am reading that right–STOP DOING THAT! You’re 2nd guessing yourself! Become more confident! It really is okay to inquire of for just what you need! It really is okay you may anticipate individuals to be truthful with you! Do not make excuses for folks. Allow them to prove for you that they are well worth your time and effort. Do not offer individuals reasons why you should walk all over you.

Simply upright, unequivocally ask the guy become exclusive then straight up tell him you expect that exclusivity=taking down profiles if that’s what you want, and. Then let him respond to without responding to for him. Published by phunniemee at 7:05 PM may 30, 2013 35 favorites

I cannot talk for the exclusivity thing, nonetheless it’s worth talking about.

But I’m able to touch upon the dating thing that is profile this really is some of those twenty-first century, very first globe issues. The timing of using down a profile delivers all types of messages. (As does Twitter friending and relationshipping). He most likely does not desire to frighten you away by jumping the weapon prematurily. Published by gjc at 7:07 PM may 30, 2013

There isn’t any standard reply to this, like “2 months” or “9 times. ” The amount of time as with your question “how long” does not matter. Some partners just just just take months to get at that point, some simply just just take days.

Wessue i do believe you probably want answered is “is he set on me personally, and does he desire to be exclusive beside me? ” You interpret taking along the profile as an indication of severe interest as well as perhaps exclusivity. ” We cannot answer that question, though. Just they can tell you whether he is really interested and desires exclusivity.

Before you get to this point where you’ve shared a lot of intimacy but you have that odd thing where you’ve been physically intimate but are totally afraid to ask them how they feel about the relationship and its future if you are in the market for an exclusive relationship, you might want to have this conversation first with people. That will really be backwards. It seems as you, but it’s not clear that he’s serious – we can’t answer that, only he can though he likes. In future, have actually this conversation just before’re afraid to. Published by Miko at 7:12 PM may 30, 2013 4 favorites

Have actually you two chatted after all in what your particular long-lasting objectives are, relationship-wise? Do you realize for the reality that he’s monogamy-minded, and fundamentally trying to find exclusivity?

If you have not had that basic discussion, now could be a great time to take action. Published by nacho fries at 7:13 PM may 30, 2013 1 favorite

we additionally started getting antsy relating to this really concern after three days of amazing times with my now-SO. Things were just therefore. Amazing between us. Or more it appeared to me personally — but ended up being it shared? I truly felt uncomfortable utilizing the possibility it DIDN’T have the in an identical way to him — which he ended up being nevertheless active on OKC and (and so I assumed) shopping for other times.

We waited another little while to talk with him about any of it — i desired to dig through personal anxiety and allow it settle. Eventually, the discussion came up pretty naturally — I happened to be perhaps not more comfortable with intercourse outside a relationship that is exclusive then when it arrived time for you to talk about such things, we additionally talked about the reality that I would pulled straight straight down my profile. He stated he’dn’t seen other people since our very very first date (therefore, my anxiety ended up being for naught! ) but had not taken their profile him links to their prospective dates’ profiles, some of which were visible only to members of the site — hence his continued activity there because he had a bunch of friends on OKC who sent.